Abstract

The use of the expression “sorry po” in everyday communication has generated various interpretations among both speakers and listeners, particularly within informal social interactions. A review of related literature on Filipino politeness strategies reveals that further investigation is needed to better understand how this expression is used and perceived in daily life. Hence, this qualitative research aims to explore the lived experiences of individuals in using “sorry po” during informal interactions. Specifically, it identified the different situations in which “sorry po” is expressed, the underlying reasons for its use, and its effects on interpersonal relationships, communication patterns, and emotional responses. This study employed a case study design and utilized purposive sampling in selecting participants who frequently engage in informal communication. An aide-memoire is used as the primary data gathering tool to guide the collection of participants’ experiences. Furthermore, triangulation is applied to ensure the credibility and validity of the findings. Through cool and warm analyses, the results reveal that individuals use “sorry po” in various contexts not only to admit fault but also to express politeness, respect, and the desire to maintain social harmony. Despite occasional misunderstandings, especially in cross-cultural interactions, participants demonstrate that the use of “sorry po” helps them navigate everyday communication and sustain positive relationships.

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DOI: 10.56901/WQER9183

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